March 12, 2010

A word to the discouraged



We all do it – criticize our selves, our art work, our efforts. We compare what we have done to what we see others have done. This is normal, expected.

But what should the Artistic Mother, with precious little time to waste, do next?

Well here are some ideas that I have used:

1) Give yourself a mental pep talk:

- Read page 15 of my book (yep, I have to remind myself to follow the principles in the book, this stuff doesn’t always come naturally!)

- Remember you are not alone (why not talk to another artist friend, online or in real life)

- Resolve to not give in to self-criticism, if you give up now you will never progress

2) Do something

If you have made a collage or a background paper and you are discouraged there are a number of things to do:

- set what you have done aside for a week, don’t look at it. Do something else. Read some poetry, take some photos, do another craft that you are comfortable with. When you get out your art work after a while you may very well see it is not as bad as you first thought!

- try again, you may need some practice to get it right. You have to start somewhere and keep going. Put away what you have done and try it again.

- Make something SMALL

For Example:
STEP 1
Take what you have made and cut it up, tear it up, set these pieces aside!

STEP 2
Now get out some images – say something tried and true like a piece of old book paper and a butterfly image (this is a great source), a piece of ribbon and Rub on sentiment (rubber stamp word will do, or even printed words).



STEP 3
Choose one of the torn/cut up pieces of the 'failed' work, layer it over a piece of old book paper, glue on the butterfly and ribbon piece. Add the words.



STEP 4
Get out a piece of cardstock, fold it over, glue the ‘image’ to the card.



STEP 5
now is the important part:
Write a note of permission to yourself! it doesn’t have to be beautiful.

22 comments:

  1. Thank you, Shona, for this encouraging post. I know we all struggle from time to time with disappointment from our efforts and with perfectionism. As you say, we need to give ourselves permission to get it wrong. We need to free ourselves from the idea of having to be perfect in order to succeed.

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  2. Shona, you rock!! Your true heart and vision shines through in this post.

    Along the lines of, 'if life gives you lemons, make lemonade!'

    btw, I bought and sent your book to a deserving momma yesterday. The first of many such gifts.

    hugs!
    oh, and my new blog is FINALLY up and running. www.exquisite-grace.blogspot.com

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  5. Anonymous11:14 AM

    thanks for the kind words of encouragement!
    yes, i am one of the crestfallen & i will take your advice to heart. i did run out to buy the somerset apprentice 2 yesterday. in addition, as you suggested, i stepped away from my projects & looking back i admit to rushing through the preparatory time so i dove in without reflection & lacking a VISION.
    tomorrow i will be ready to enthusiastically jump back on this horse....thanks again....:)
    (sorry i had to keep reposting.....many type-o's)

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  6. This a a great reminder. Thanks for the inspiring post :)

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  7. wonderful ideas to silence our inner critic!

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  8. Shona, I love it! I am going to create something with my daughter tonight for our mommy/daughter date night. I bought some beautiful vintage collage paper and some embellishments today to inspire me. And tomorrow I have 2 days of alone time...hot tea, good music and ME working on a bigger project out of your book. I am going to do it without any self doubt, i swear!!

    Thanks for the post on my blog the other day. I am honored that you took the time...and it totally inspired me :)

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  9. Thanks so much Shona. This post REAllY spoke to me today. Just one of the days and I know it will pass.
    Cheers,
    Dana

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  10. I want to tell you that you're my nominee for an "sunshine award", please come to see this post and decide if you want to pass it on to somebody .THANK YOU!! XD
    http://rey-gato.blogspot.com/2010/03/bla-bla.html

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  11. You are the best cheer leader ever! Great post...I'm going to read it again.
    The post is at the right time.

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  12. Good idea! Sometimes its just the way, we look at things - change your angle, and the thing you look at change.

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  13. i appreciate how well the encouraging words flowed with the steps to help..you are such a giving person !

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  14. hey shona..i have resolved myself to the fact that i will not get the book in australia...so yesterday i ordered it from the us...o it may take a little time to get here...i have decided not to guess at what to do as i have never done anything like this before, so i will wait for your knowledge and guidence to help me through the process...it is getting very frustrating to be honest, but now i know i will be getting it....until then, i will enjoy reading everyones posts and to be honest, found your post perfect for what i am feeling...thanks...mandy...xxx

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  15. Anonymous6:10 PM

    I am always worrying if what I am doing is right, with art, parenting, and being a wife. I am going to make one but I am giving myself permission to be myself, to accept my faults and to learn from my mistakes!

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  16. that was a great post, so nice to know that other artists get to the same place, and so nice to read about a solution....

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  17. Getting back on the horse tomorrow. The studio is just about dried out and everything is almost back to normal. Hoping to have an artful weekend. I love this post. Thanks for the encouraging sentiment.

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  18. Great post. I think we all need a pep talk now and again.

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  19. Shona, what a lovely post! You are such an inspiration to moms who are trying to do something really creative. Thanks for the encouragement!

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  20. Oh, Shona! I'm not discouraged! Just behind on the projects...already! I must fly out and get your book and get started today! much love, Beth

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  21. great post! i love it!

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